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My kid is a “crib jumper”… HELP!

You have spent the last several months encouraging your child to move; helping them fine tune their gross motor skills, build muscle and strength. A time may come, when your little one will utilize these skills for mischief, such as climbing out of their crib. A natural “test” for some, and a sign that they are becoming all the wiser for sure.

For most kids, between the ages of 2 and 3 is when they may attempt to “break out” of their crib. While this may seem challenging or fun to them, it can be incredibly dangerous as well. Neither of my kids ever tried this maneuver… although I wouldn’t put it past my little guy just yet (he is 23 months after all, and could very easily be scheming this up now for all I know).

If your child is a “crib jumper” make sure you’ve ticked off all of the boxes below.

Mattress Positioning: As soon as your child starts pulling themselves up or standing in their crib, move the mattress to its lowest setting. Some cribs can have their platform removed so that the mattress can safely be put right down on the floor. But, do ensure that there is no possibility your child will try to wedge themselves out any other way.

Crib Placement: Can you strategically put the crib in a corner against two walls? Would flipping your crib to put the front in the back, and the back in the front help some? The front of the crib tends to be lower, and the back higher. A change in crib placement might buy you a bit more time.

Sleep Sacks: Keep those sleep sacks on! If their legs are contained, they cannot get their legs far enough apart to climb out. If your child is resisting the sleep sack, ones with leg holes are available, and you can sew the leg holes a little closer together to make it more challenging to get legs up and over.  

Props: Remove any pillows, stuffed animals, or extra items from the bed. These can be used as steps or props to aid in their escape.

In spite of all your efforts, there may come a day when your little one does escape so it may be a good precaution to have a soft rug or carpet next to the crib to cushion any landings. Also, make sure that the rest of the room and surrounding area outside of their room is toddler proofed and safe. If you needed another reminder to latch that furniture to the walls – HERE IT IS!

If your child is repeatedly jumping out of the crib despite all of your best efforts, it is time to move them to a permanent mattress on the floor, or a toddler bed.

If you’ve trained your child to sleep in the crib and have relied heavily on the bars to keep them there, this can present its own very unique set of challenges you have yet to navigate. Many families fear this stage, and are unsure how to best keep their toddler with newfound freedom in their bed. I can definitely help you with that! I’ve navigated this journey with families whose toddlers advanced skills in crib jumping landed them in a toddler bed as early as 16 months. I would definitely not recommend moving this early to a bed if you can help it, but should you find yourself in this position I would be happy to use my knowledge and expertise to help you.

And to all of my toddler parents – I see you too. 😉 



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Should you sing your baby to sleep?

Over the past year my practice in sleep coaching has evolved. I am asking parents to respond to their babies. This means validating their baby’s cry, using touch while the little one learns to settle in a different way, and responding with voice, eye contact, and constant reassurance if the changes we are making are met with tears.

Babies are sensory creatures. We know this. And when you add in many layers of comfort and connection, sometimes you end up with an overstimulated babe who won’t be soothed by anyone!

This is a place of frustration I really try to help my families avoid.

One of the “things” I kept telling parents to do while settling their babies, was sing.

At the time I started to offer this advice, I really didn’t know why I kept suggesting it. It had worked well for me personally, but I really hadn’t stopped to think too much about why this was a success, and if there was any science behind it.

When my son Theodore was 6 weeks old I picked his “bedtime song”. This was a lullaby I heard at the library. One I loved.. And knew I wouldn’t bore of if I was still singing it 3 years later. When I put him to sleep in his crib through patting, and affirming touch, I sang or hummed this song on repeat. Like I mean, on repeat. Sometimes probably over 100 times.

The song itself is only 6 lines. It is an African lullaby from what I know. It addresses each person in the family. The mama, the papa, the brother, sister, and baby. Each is loved. Each is treasured and honoured in the song. And I love that about it. Every time I sing or hum this song, even if I am doing it for hours.. Or at 3 in the morning, I think about that interconnection. How the 4 of us are family, and how we will forever be connected at the heart.

There are nights where I probably hummed this little song for an hour straight. Patting Theo’s back, waiting for him to make the vulnerable transition from awake to asleep. Something I wanted to be with him to experience when he was just a little guy.

I was a tired mama, but somehow I never tired of this tune. I knew it so well, and I just kept humming. Low and steady. It seemed to flow from me almost effortlessly.

It became a source of comfort for me as well. The thing that I began to know as the last step that would eventually soothe Theo to sleep. Yes it took some time.. And my mind would wander. But the constant humming of the tune over and over on repeat became meditative for me.

Rather than worry about how long I’d been in the room, or how long this particular bedtime or middle of the night soothing session was taking me – I had my plan. I had my constant reassurance I wanted to offer, and it allowed me to remain calm. To have a focal point. To be in control of my actions when in the room with my son. And this allowed me to keep my anxiety very low as I responded to his needs.

I say often that we are connected to our babies on a cellular level. We grew them inside us for many months, and I believe they feel our feelings on the outside, just as they did when they were safe inside. Keeping sleep-time anxieties low while a parent attends to their child, just makes good sense to me. And if singing the same tune lets you do this, then I think that is something to honour!

What I started to notice with Theo, was that humming this tune was all he needed for middle of the night reassurance. We got to a point together where I could enter the room, hum my tune once, and leave. This really affirmed my belief in this technique. It was pretty amazing to see him soothe with my voice alone (sleep wizardry – I know).

What I was actually experiencing was a term researches have called, “synchronicity”. One study I found observed a mom and baby’s body heat, respiration, and heartbeat. The wavy lines she observed would begin to move together when mom began to sing a well-known lullaby to her baby. It was if they became one! The same effect was not necessarily present just from baby being picked up! But their brain and body seemed to join together over this familiar tune.**

I knew for months that Theo had been listening to my voice, getting to know it. But what I didn’t know was that this actually has a scientific definition in the form of vocal timbre. This is, “the resonance by which the ear recognizes and identifies a voiced speech sound, or connects with the distinctive tone of a particular singing voice.”

As I sang to Theo, he got to know me. He got to listen to my voice, and know me as the one who keeps him safe, warm, and comfortable. He began to recognize my singing as part of the safety in transitioning from awake to asleep. He got to know me as his “person”.

Every night we were communicating. Differently than if I was talking to him – I believe. He was able to pick up on the emotions that come in the form of sound. And I can tell you, if I was not singing… my emotions would have been all kinds of crazy in the times where I was unsure if he was EVER going to fall asleep. Although I may have been all kinds of worried, the emotion I was able to project was one of calmness, stillness, and love. This was largely led by the melodic tune.

The speed at which he fell asleep got faster with almost every passing night (there were exceptions of course). But having read what I have read now, there is real science behind babies soothing more quickly with sounds that are familiar to them.

Now I know some of you are probably reading this thinking.. Lara.. this is not exactly profound information! People have been singing lullabies all over the world, every night, for many many years!

And yes. This is true, friends. We sing our children to sleep for many different reasons. Some people sing because this is what their parents did before they fell asleep as children, and they want to recreate that love and comfort for their own babies. Some people sing to connect to different aspects of their culture through song, or to share a message or story passed down through many generations.

For me – it began as a way to keep my sanity while I ventured in the realm of responsive nighttime parenting.. But it appears, it was likely much more for my son.



** More info on Dr. Anita Collins research can be found here

Beautiful baby photos with thanks to Stacie-Lynn photography.